Hind Yousef: Calm in the Storm
Helping Heal Invisible Wounds
Hind Yousef laughs heartily as she recounts using her degree in clinical psychology to diagnose herself with a “Type A personality.” She identifies with people who need a lot of structure and organisation–yet she strikes me as someone who is immensely comfortable with chaos.
After all, she works in Jordan providing mental health care to Syrian refugees fleeing this century’s bloodiest, most brutal war.
Born in Jordan but raised in Texas, Hind returned to her home country a year and a half ago and began working with International Medical Corps as a Mental Health Psychologist. She fell in love with psychology in an introductory class at the University of Texas after noticing the profound effect it had on her own life. Before psychology, she says, she did not know how to “monitor herself.” Then she started using the breathing exercises and relaxation techniques she learned in class, and found that they calmed her when she felt upset—which in turn calmed those around her. “I found this ripple effect very interesting,” she says, and I picture her calm amidst what I can only imagine is persistent calamity.
Through her work with International Medical Corps, Hind treats vulnerable Jordanians as well as refugees from Syria, Iraq, West Bank and Gaza, Yemen and Sudan. The job suits her, she says, as she has always had “the patience of listening to people” and “loves to help.” But her real gift, I believe, lies in her empathy.
Clients often come to Hind overwhelmed by emotional distress and silenced by their inability to cope. Hind highlights the importance of developing a strong therapeutic relationship built on a foundation of trust and uses role-play exercises to build confidence and communication. The process empowers her clients as it humbles Hind, allowing her to better empathise with their experiences, which she says requires “being mindful and using your imagination.”
Many of the refugees with whom Hind works have endured or witnessed extreme violence. They have all been torn from their homes and separated from loved ones. Their symptoms manifest physically—in their racing hearts, sweating palms, loud voices—but Hind is a healer of intangible fear and trauma. How do you heal a wound you can’t see? I wonder. For Hind, this means moving through her clients’ fear with them.
She uses cognitive-behavioural techniques in combination with breathing exercises to help her clients heal emotionally and rewire cognitively, over time replacing negative memories with positive imagery. Sometimes she takes them to a beautiful beach in their minds and watches their bodies relax, their hands tracing the imaginary sand beneath them. Although her refugee clients are a long way from a beach vacation, their resilience remains intimately linked to their emotional landscape. As Hind reminds me, “It all starts with the brain. If the thoughts are not healthy, then you are not healthy.”
I think about how fear can root in us like a disease–we all experience it in our own ways—and how we must confront what haunts us to find peace on the other side of it. Hind has had to find equilibrium within herself to withstand the storm of emotions moving through her clients. Typically, her Type A personality keeps her mentally strong and disciplined, but other times she finds her heart “pierced” and must take refuge in a bathroom stall for a few moments.
Then she takes a few deep breaths, counts to 10 and goes calmly back out into the world to continue healing others.